All of us experience pain at regular intervals in our lives. We often turn to food, alcohol, shopping, work, or something else to ignore the pain we feel. These temporary distractions only prevent the process that needs to happen to let it go.

The Steps

1. Something happens to trigger your pain.
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We (us humans) have made it almost impossible to lose weight because we can’t rely on our body to tell us when to start, when to stop, and what types of food best serve us.

It has become increasingly difficult to rely on our brilliant bodies for wisdom. The suggestion to eat only when we are hun...

Nearly all my clients, at some point during our time working together, will refer to the fact that they just want to eat ‘like a normal person’.

There are many coaches out there and many different coaching methodologies. The type of coaching that I offer is ‘Causal Coaching’. This means that I treat the cause of my clients’ problem, or the reason why they are not getting what they want in life, and not just the symptoms.

What I mean by that...

Your past no longer exists except in your mind. All you have is now. The past is over, and the future is in your imagination. All you have in this moment are the thoughts you are thinking. If you’re thinking about your past, that isn’t your past. This is a huge distinction. Your past is over. The on...

When my coach told me that the reason, I was so busy was because I was ‘slopping in my time management’, and that when I told her ‘I don’t have enough time’ that I was lying, I felt a bit affronted. She said that I didn’t need to be so ‘busy’ that I just needed to manage my time better.

The idea...

Practising believing something you don’t yet believe, is like adding fuel to the fire if you are striving towards achieving a new goal, whether that is weight loss or something else.  The first step to doing that is becoming aware of what you currently believe, what your current thoughts are.

Yo...

Buffering is something we do to avoid fully experiencing our lives. We don’t want to face the truth of our lives because we don’t want to experience negative emotion. We think we are entitled to feel happy all the time because we are constantly bombarded with ways to feel pleasure.

There is valu...

We’re so confused about how relationships work. We’re under the impression that other people need to behave a certain way so we can feel good.

We have so many rules for our relationships that we have stopped experiencing them and are locked into our expectations of how these relationships should...

Why do we want to feel our emotions? Yesterday’s blog post addressed how most of us resist our emotions, react to them, or distract ourselves from them. Today I am going to explore how we can learn to feel our emotions, how we can allow them to be there.

But first let me remind you why we want t...