I haven’t written and posted a blog post for the past three days and I feel a bit gutted about it.
I really wanted to meet the goal I set myself of writing and posting for the 40 days of Lent. And well life got in the way, just like life does.
It’s been interesting to observe myself go through this failure. There have been many parallels to my weight loss journey. So, I am being both coach and ‘coachee’ in this blog post in order that I can share with you what I’ve learned as I’ve observed myself over the past few days, and also illustrate how the skills we need to develop in order to manage our weight for life, are skills that can be valuable when applied in other areas too.
I didn’t put strategies in place ahead of time to help me when life gets in the way. Of course, life got in the way, because that’s what life does. You may get sick, family may need you...
Emotional childhood occurs when we don’t take responsibility for managing our feelings.
Most of us act from a place of emotional childhood at certain times in our lives, often emotional childhood shows itself in our relationships, but it can also appear in relation to how we are eating when we are trying to lose weight.
We are in emotional childhood when we react to our emotions by acting out or avoiding our feelings rather than taking full responsibility for them.
I notice that some of my clients are in a place of emotional childhood when they tell me about their weight challenges. Some of them may blame their genetics or upbringing, or a health condition for their current weight. Others may blame diets they’ve done previously as the reason they’ve lost and regained weight multiple times, and others may blame the circumstances of their week, such as entertaining clients, as the reason for a gain in weight.
Understanding how your brain affects your thoughts, your emotions, and your ability to act is a huge ‘must do’ if you want to live your best life.
In simplified terms, you have two parts to your brain. Your prefrontal cortex can make all your dreams come true. It can decide ahead of time, create goals, envision dreams, and devise plans. It’s where our humanness resides. It’s the most evolved part of our brains and where executive function occurs. It’s where we make conscious decisions. The prefrontal cortex uses a lot of energy. It’s only going to be recruited for big jobs that we want to put a lot of effort into.
The other part of your brain is the cerebellum, your automatic consciousness that’s efficient and already programmed. It comes up with reactions, solutions, and actions very quickly without much energy involved. The brain likes to be efficient. It likes to expend as little energy as possible. It defaults to the...
There are multiple studies and experiments that demonstrate the impact of lack of sleep on our waist line. Despite this, too few of us are getting enough. Today I explain why lack of sleep can hinder your weight loss and suggest some tips for how you can get regular restful sleep if that is something that you struggle with.
70 years ago, more than 80% of the American population got seven or more hours sleep a night, now it is less than 60%. Scientists from Oxford university claim that we are sleeping on average one or two hours less a night than we were 70 years ago. And a study of US adults found that 30% are sleeping less than six hours a night.
Lack of sleep contributes to a wide range of health issues including depression and anxiety, obesity, type II diabetes Alzheimer’s.
If you want to lose weight, making sure you get at least seven hours quality sleep each night. Multiple studies have found...
When you invest in a life coach you are investing in yourself. That is, if you are investing in a life, health and weight coach, you’re investing in your physical and mental wellness.
What possible better investment could you make?
Of all the things you can do in your life, of all the things you can invest your money into doing, I think mental and physical health and wellness must be at the top of your list.
Here in the UK we are very poor at investing in our health. We spend far more money and time on our houses, cars and clothes than we do our mental well-being. We then think that our annual holiday is the answer to mental self-care even though often in reality our holidays do not live up to our expectations and our mental wellness degrades even more.
Yesterday I wrote about how stepping on the scales to weigh yourself can be an opportunity to observe your thinking, and the feeling your thoughts create.
Today I would like to stick with focusing on thinking and look more closely at thoughts vs. facts or as I call them, circumstances.
Recognising the difference between ‘your thoughts about’ and ‘the facts of’ a situation is the very first step in mastering an improved level of self-awareness that will massively help you make changes in your life, whether that is lose weight, improve a relationship, or get a promotion at work.
Usually, when we identify a problem in our lives, such as weighing too much, or our husband being inconsiderate, we think of the problem as a circumstance. It seems and feels as though ‘being 30 lbs overweight or ‘husband letting us down because he didn’t do what he said’ is fact. But it isn’t. It’s ultimately a thought.
Chances are that if you have been struggling to lose weight for a while you are familiar with experiencing an array of emotions when you get on the scales. I can remember the anticipation of a slimming club weigh in. In fact, I would only go when I lost weight because I felt such shame if I had gained a pound.
We make it mean such a big deal as to whether the number has gone up or down. It’s worth remembering it’s only a number. The number itself has no meaning. It’s our thoughts about the number that make it mean something. The evidence for this is that the same number will mean different things to different people.
Consider the number, 13 stone and 5 lbs. What does that number mean to you? What thought do you have about that number? How does that thought make your feel?
Here are the some of the thoughts that you may have had:
I am feeling plagued by overwhelm today.
Overwhelm is an emotion. I have quite a few thoughts that frequently generate the feeling of overwhelm in me.
For me it’s usually associated with thoughts about having too much to do and not enough time to get it done. These thoughts usually relate to other thoughts that I have about what I ‘should’ get done. I also think that I want to do everything because I tell myself things will be better, in fact ‘I will be better’ if I get everything done the way I want to.
Much of what I want to get done today (Sunday) is preparation for the week ahead. I am also telling myself that if I don’t get do everything I will be ‘behind’ before the week has even started.
So, what’s the problem with feeling overwhelmed? I used to think that feelings of overwhelm, stress or urgency were what drove me to get everything done but now I know that overwhelm doesn’t serve...
There are as many ‘right diets’ as there are people on the planet. The right diet for me will not be the right diet for you. What’s right for you will depend on your life stage, genetics, life-style and much more.
I work closely with my clients to determine what is the right diet for them. It is a learning process, and that ‘right diet’ will for sure change in the time that we work together. I also believe that the diet plan we create for them should be one that they would be willing to stick to for life. And we spend time analysing what that means and how they want to think and feel about that.
I work closely with my clients to explore what might be the right diet for them. It is a learning process. And that ‘right diet’ will for sure change in the time that we work together.
I enourage them to consider that the diet plan we create for them should be something they would be willing to stick to for life. We also spend time...
It is so easy to overeat in the world that we live in. Our culture, psychology and neurobiology all play a part and have contributed to the simple fact that overeating is ‘normal’.
It’s normal to eat cake when someone brings it into the office because it is their birthday. Even though your body has no fuel or nutritional requirement for the cake, and even though eating cake regularly leads to being overweight and increasing chance of health problems, it’s the person who declines the slice of cake that stands out. Isn’t that crazy!
And of course, the problem with overeating is that the more we overeat the more weight we gain and the greater the decline of our mental and physical health.
In 2016 The World Health Organization reported that more than 1.9 billion adults (39%) were overweight, of which 650 million (13%) were obese.
Being overweight is a major risk factor in: