When I was struggling to lose weight, I was frequently self-sabotaging my diet. I would get frustrated and disappointed in myself, even though I felt powerless to stop. If this is familiar to you, I encourage you to get curious about what is happening in your brain and to learn how you can stop this negative behaviour by checking out this blog post.
It is the sabotaging, whether consciously or subconsciously, of oneself, or one’s own interests, plans, goals etc.
There are many ways in which we self-sabotage our own weight loss, most of them resulting in us eating something that does not support our weight loss goals, wehther we get some short term comfort and enjoyment from that eating or not. More specifically we:
A goal that is so impossible that in trying to reach it you will have the opportunity to fail many, many times. The more failures you can rack up in trying to achieve your impossible goal the better.
One of the first things that happen when we set any goal is that the brain seizes up and tells us why it’s a bad idea and won’t happen. We focus on all that chatter associated with indecision and self-doubt.
But, if we tell our brain that our goal is impossible from the outset, we can get on with preparing for all the steps we will take towards it, and all the associated failures that we can achieve along the way.
We sometimes avoid setting goals because we don’t want to be uncomfortable and ultimately disappointed, because we know we won’t follow through. When you start the goal with a different language, your...
So exactly what is a feeling?
Well, a feeling (which we also may refer to as an emotion) is a vibration, triggered by our brain and felt in our body. All feelings vibrate uniquely which is why different feelings feel, well different.
So, let me illustrate how feelings are the motivation for everything that we do.
Take a moment and think about something that you want.
Then ask yourself why you want it?
And then ask yourself how you will feel when you get it?
You’ll notice that the reason you want what you chose, is because of a feeling that you desired, and that you believed you would get as a consequence, of having the thing you wanted.
So the reason we desire anything from a new house or car, to a loving relationship, is because of how we believe it will enable us to feel.
Well it’s our thoughts...
I am writing this from Heathrow T3, feeling very excited. Today I continue my life, health and weight loss coaching journey by flying out to Texas for a 6-day live training with Brooke Castillo of The Life Coach School.
As I travelled to the airport I contemplated whether calling myself a Life, Health & Weight Loss coach is too much of a mouthful, and/or confusing for people. I’m aware that my future clients may wonder what life coaching has to do with weight loss. I found myself wondering whether I should ditch the ‘health’ bit, but I am reluctant to do that because the ‘health’ bit is fundamental. I believe that healthy eating doesn’t need to be difficult, time consuming or complicated. So, I find myself writing a blog post to explain to myself as much as to anyone reading this why all three components ‘life’, ‘health’ and ‘weight loss’ are fundamental to how I want to help people and provide coaching for...
Life coaching is a process that helps you chose and achieve the life that you want. Life coaching helps you to ‘feel better’, whether that’s in your ‘day-to-day’, or helping you through a major life change, or helping you to achieve a major goal.
Whether your goal is to lose weight, improve your health, discover your life purpose, get a promotion, address a troubling relationship, the chances are that ultimately you want to feel better. To have more peace, happiness, and joy your life. And health coaching can help with all of this.
A good life coach will work with you to discover and understand your true motivation. Oftentimes we believe that losing all our excess weight, getting that promotion at work, or being a better parent will make us happy – but then when we achieve it, we still feel lacking.
Frequently it is about mindset. It’s just as much about managing your thoughts and...
If you are a working Mum, the summer holidays can be a particularly challenging time for self-care. It may feel impossible to find time for yourself whilst trying to honour work commitments, spend quality time with your children and get ready for time away – or tackle the washing mountain when you return.
So, it’s at times like these that its vital to remember the most important person to take care of is you. If you’re not healthy, you won’t be any good to anyone – work or family.
Also, remember the best legacy you can give to your kids is an example of a life well-lived. They may listen to what you say, but they will do what you do. If you tell them to...
As I look forward to my upcoming beach holiday at an all-inclusive resort with my family I find myself wondering whether I will over eat. I know it is entirely up to me and I have a choice. I know that if I do gain weight I can lose it again without a load of drama, but what do I truly want?
What will make it truly enjoyable and fill me with joy and happiness?
How high a priority is eating and drinking?
I would like to truly experience the Caribbean. I’ve not been before, and I want to soak up the sights, sounds, aromas and atmosphere.
I also want to spend quality time with my husband. Both of us have been working like crazy over the past few weeks, barely having time to speak to one another. And I’m really looking forward to catching up over a good cup of coffee, or gin and slimline tonic.
And I want to connect with my children (if they’ll let me)! When you have teenagers time on holiday is one of those rare opportunities...
Drink water for improved energy, increased weight loss and good well being
Increasing your water intake is one of the simplest and most beneficial things that you can do to improve your energy, support weight loss, and improve your overall sense of well being.
The more you practise drinking water regularly throughout the day, the quicker it will become an effortless habit. Try these ideas to help develop your water drinking habit.
The food we eat is our ‘fuel for life’. The right food nourishes us and keeps our body and mind healthy and in balance.
I believe that there is no right or best diet. What works best for one individual is different from what works for another. And what works for an individual during at one point in their life will be radically different from what works at another time in their life, whether this is due to their age or their circumstances.
When I refer to ‘diet’ I mean ‘way of eating’ not a ‘diet’ in the typical sense of trying to eat in some restrictive way for as long as you can before you give up. Or at least that’s what ‘diet’ used to mean to me!
When I explore what ‘diet’ or ‘way of eating’ works best with a client I don’t just consider the food type and quantity that they eat; I evaluate how they eat, when they eat, where they eat and who they are being when they eat.
Whatever our life experience we have developed knowledge and skills that we can apply to any situation.
I’m all for transferable skills and I find that much of what I learned in the corporate business environment can be valuable when applying it to the areas of my life I associate with life, healthy and weight loss coaching. From planning and processes to time management and reviews and analysis. Here are three of my strategies for simplifying the work, family home juggle. They help me create the physical and mental capacity to take care of myself too.