My mentor and coach, Brooke Castillo, teaches the concept of massive action.
One example of massive action that she suggested to one of her clients who was single and wanted to be married, is that they should commit to going on 200 first dates. By committing to such massive action, they would be hugely increasing their chances of meeting their future husband, and they would certainly perfect the art of dating (if there is such a thing), and they would have a lot of life experiences during the process.
I love this example because it illustrates so clearly that by taking massive action, we are hugely increasing our opportunities to practice and learn and hence our chance of success.
Some of them will be my clients, some of them will take value from the free coaching sessions that I offer, and others may simply read one of my blog posts and pick up something useful that they can apply in their own life....
Most people want to try to lose weight and most people are pretty good at trying to do it. But most people are not committed enough.
If you want to lose weight think carefully. Are you willing to try or are you committed? Are you determined to do it no matter what?
Notice that if the word try is in the statement or the declaration, it’s indicating that quitting is an option.
Most people are very good at quitting. We are very good at trying and quitting. We are not very good at committing. Now, the way that I define committing is that you will continue to take massive action until you get the result you want. Quitting is not an option. You will keep at it for as long as you need to. You will adjust in order to reach your goal. You will not quit. You will not give up.
How much are you willing to commit to losing weight no matter what? Would you be willing to give me your car if you don’t lose weight? Why not? If you’re committed, you would...
If your child, or close family member, had been kidnapped, and was to be held captive until you reached your goal weight, what would your weight loss journey look like? I’m guessing if it were plotted on paper the graph tracking daily weigh ins would be a consistent decline without much fluctuation. Your reason to lose weight would be so compelling that you wouldn’t even consider whether you should have those biscuits with your morning coffee.
Now I know this is an extreme and unrealistic example, but if you allow yourself to consider it, it demonstrates how easy it could be to lose weight consistently, because you are extremely clear and focused, if you reason is highly compelling.
Now consider, still using the above example, what would your desire, belief, resilience and commitment look like? They would all be extremely high. Your desire, commitment, and resilience to losing would weight would be at 100%, nothing else would matter, and your belief – well that...
Do you ever get frustrated with yourself because you really want something, but you don’t take the required action to get it, even if it’s something that you really, really want?
Often, we have dreams and ideas and things that we want to do, and no matter how much we try, we just can’t get ourselves motivated to follow through and achieve what we truly desire.
Have you ever wondered why? I used to wonder why I couldn’t stick to a diet. I used to wonder why I couldn’t focus on getting my house organised and looking the way that I really wanted it. And, the reason, which I shall get to in just a moment, all comes down to the same thing which is great because when you’ve learned the skills in one area of your life you can apply them in all areas.
And the skills that you need to learn are based on the main tool that I teach my clients and it is called THE MODEL. THE MODEL was created by my coach Brooke Castillo of The Life Coach...
Do you constantly think there aren’t enough hours in the day and that you are busy?
This week’s blog post looks at productivity and considers:
I am learning how to increase my productivity. Every week I practise seeing if I can get more done than I did the week before. It’s a bit of an obsession of mine. I’m one of those people who used to totally believe that there aren’t enough hours in the day and that I was ‘just too busy’. I now know that those beliefs, not only aren’t true, but that they also don’t serve me, and I am learning to let them go whilst I work hard to get more done.
If you’re like me and you like getting stuff done, if you like the...
When I was struggling to lose weight, I was frequently self-sabotaging my diet. I would get frustrated and disappointed in myself, even though I felt powerless to stop. If this is familiar to you, I encourage you to get curious about what is happening in your brain and to learn how you can stop this negative behaviour by checking out this blog post.
It is the sabotaging, whether consciously or subconsciously, of oneself, or one’s own interests, plans, goals etc.
There are many ways in which we self-sabotage our own weight loss, most of them resulting in us eating something that does not support our weight loss goals, wehther we get some short term comfort and enjoyment from that eating or not. More specifically we:
A goal that is so impossible that in trying to reach it you will have the opportunity to fail many, many times. The more failures you can rack up in trying to achieve your impossible goal the better.
One of the first things that happen when we set any goal is that the brain seizes up and tells us why it’s a bad idea and won’t happen. We focus on all that chatter associated with indecision and self-doubt.
But, if we tell our brain that our goal is impossible from the outset, we can get on with preparing for all the steps we will take towards it, and all the associated failures that we can achieve along the way.
We sometimes avoid setting goals because we don’t want to be uncomfortable and ultimately disappointed, because we know we won’t follow through. When you start the goal with a different language, your...
So exactly what is a feeling?
Well, a feeling (which we also may refer to as an emotion) is a vibration, triggered by our brain and felt in our body. All feelings vibrate uniquely which is why different feelings feel, well different.
So, let me illustrate how feelings are the motivation for everything that we do.
Take a moment and think about something that you want.
Then ask yourself why you want it?
And then ask yourself how you will feel when you get it?
You’ll notice that the reason you want what you chose, is because of a feeling that you desired, and that you believed you would get as a consequence, of having the thing you wanted.
So the reason we desire anything from a new house or car, to a loving relationship, is because of how we believe it will enable us to feel.
Well it’s our thoughts...
I am writing this from Heathrow T3, feeling very excited. Today I continue my life, health and weight loss coaching journey by flying out to Texas for a 6-day live training with Brooke Castillo of The Life Coach School.
As I travelled to the airport I contemplated whether calling myself a Life, Health & Weight Loss coach is too much of a mouthful, and/or confusing for people. I’m aware that my future clients may wonder what life coaching has to do with weight loss. I found myself wondering whether I should ditch the ‘health’ bit, but I am reluctant to do that because the ‘health’ bit is fundamental. I believe that healthy eating doesn’t need to be difficult, time consuming or complicated. So, I find myself writing a blog post to explain to myself as much as to anyone reading this why all three components ‘life’, ‘health’ and ‘weight loss’ are fundamental to how I want to help people and provide coaching for...
Life coaching is a process that helps you chose and achieve the life that you want. Life coaching helps you to ‘feel better’, whether that’s in your ‘day-to-day’, or helping you through a major life change, or helping you to achieve a major goal.
Whether your goal is to lose weight, improve your health, discover your life purpose, get a promotion, address a troubling relationship, the chances are that ultimately you want to feel better. To have more peace, happiness, and joy your life. And health coaching can help with all of this.
A good life coach will work with you to discover and understand your true motivation. Oftentimes we believe that losing all our excess weight, getting that promotion at work, or being a better parent will make us happy – but then when we achieve it, we still feel lacking.
Frequently it is about mindset. It’s just as much about managing your thoughts and...